To hold onto these images and keep them on our child’s behalf through all the turmoil that they will most certainly experience as they grow. This in fact is one of our most important obligations as parents, to treasure and keep in our hearts powerful, positive images of our children to tuck these away for a rainy day. Have fun with this and see what insights arise.Īs you finish balancing and energizing your heart, bring your attention to positive memories of your children. Here is the link to one site that takes only about 5 minutes, and then sends you a pie chart of your relative strengths. It can help us start to see them through the lens of multiple intelligences. However, I have found that an informal MI inventory can start us focusing on our own and our children's strengths. Gardner suggests that direct observation of our children in multiple environments is the best way to get a sense of their processing style, and he cautions that paper and pencil instruments are never more important than watching our kids and catching them being smart.
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It is vital that we discover these strengths and nurture them. All children and adults have all of these intelligences, but we all have them in a different combination of relative strengths and weaknesses. These 8 intelligences can be explained to children by using the following simple terms: word strong, math strong, picture strong, body strong, music strong, people strong, self strong, and nature strong. Instead, Gardner theorized that there are at least 8 different intelligences, which he called Multiple Intelligences. Gardner challenged the idea that we could give a paper and pencil test and determine how ‘smart’ or ‘dumb’ someone was. In 1984, Howard Gardner, a Harvard psychologist, wrote a book called Frames of Mind in which he proposed a new view of intelligence and learning. By understanding and accepting that children learn differently, we may choose to move away from judgments and towards a celebration of the many ways a child learns and grows. Sometimes they are given more formal labels: learning disabled, attention deficit disorder, or emotionally handicapped. These problems may get expressed informally as: lazy, spoiled, overly-sensitive, hyper and so on. The failure to do this can lead to a host of so-called “learning problems”. Many experts believe that a child’s learning style is “hard wired in” by about second grade, and that we need to recognize and nurture these varied ways of learning to give children the best chance to become creative problem solvers.
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One of the most important things for parents to know about their child is their child’s processing style. Of course, hopefully, you can find a few minutes here and there to actually sit still and focus deeply on rhythmic breath and return to balance. You can do this while you’re standing looking at the mess! And you can walk in rhythm as you push the grocery cart through the store.
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Fully exhale for 4, 6, or 8 beats (or any number that feels right for you) and fully inhale for 6 beats (or whatever rhythm you’re using). Find a rhythm that works for you, today, at this moment. As you get pulled off and frustrated by events, bring yourself gently back to your breath and put your breath in rhythm with your heartbeat. Try going through your day and keep your rhythm, your self-confidence. Maintaining your own rhythm amidst the daily challenges of parenting is the goal. However, children do respond to your rhythm. Can you walk into a child’s messy room and stay in your heart and breathing in and out in rhythm with your heartbeats? Can you maintain your rhythm during a child’s temper tantrum, pouting, whining? Remember that talking about things when a child’s upset is a waste of time. Our children look to us to set the rhythm of the day our children’s hearts entrain to ours. Almost all emotional upsets throw us out of rhythm. Let yourself fully enter into this rhythm of your heartbeat, take your time and experience this consoling rhythm of your heart.
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This is the spot nurses use to take your pulse. Do you know what you are broadcasting to your family? If you want to you can heighten this pulsing feeling by placing your right hand over your heart and hooking your right wrist with your left hand so that your left middle fingers are over the artery on your right wrist. This heartbeat is not just circulating blood it is pulsing and broadcasting your emotional state 10-20 feet outside your body. It is the echo of your mother’s heartbeat which you heard in utero. This heartbeat is your oldest cellular memory. Place your hand on your heart, to make yourself aware of your heart and heart beat.